to tell my 13 year old daughter her father is dying of lung cancer. I couldn't lie and say everything is fine. She knows he ain't feelin well. She should know...right? I hope I made the right choice.

I think you made the right choice. No sense in beatin' around the bush.

i'm so sorry deb. we're here for you if you need someone to listen.

I cannot imagine how hard that must have been for you. I feel you made the right choice. Can you imagine how she would feel if she felt lied to? I am so sorry to hear the news. Your family will continue to remain in my prayers

Thank you guys SO much. You have no idea. When crazy shiat happens, I find myself comin here and just blurting things out. So many dear souls on this board. It is truly quite rare. But even if no one answered, I would still feel better for gettin it out.

She accepted the news w/ little emotion. But several hours later I found her crying. Her father has a year tops. He is my ex...but I wouldn't wish this on my worst enemy. I do believe she should have the right to know...even how bad it is. Time is so precious. Hug your loved ones close my friends.

I know how you feel and how she feels. We're going through the exact same thing with my grandfather right now. My grandparents have raised my cousin, so they're like his parents. He's 17 and has known about the cancer the entire time, but he didn't know how bad it was and that there was nothing the doctors could do. My grandmother just told him last night that Pop was dying. He cried like a baby; it was so sad.

Anyway, sorry to thread-jack. I just wanted to let you know that you did the right thing. I'll keep ya'll in my thoughts.

Thank you Moonbaby My thoughts and prayers out to your family also. In the saddest of times for all of us..it's nice to know we are not alone.

Deb, I just now seen this thread. I'm sorry that you had to break the news to her. But I believe it's the right thing to do. I am also sorry to hear about her father. and kudos to you Deb!

Stay golden.

Oh, Deb, I'm so sorry. Yes, Dear, you made the best choice. Please know that my thoughts and prayers are with you right now. Sometimes, there is a special bond between father and daughter. Your courage and compassion will only make you more special to them both. Now your little one (well, not so little) will be able to talk to Dad and say all those things she may not have. I wish I had that chance.

Stay strong, Deborah, everyone is going to turn to you for your strength. (((hugs)))

Thank you Ant

((hugs)) back Sidder. Your post was absolutely beautiful. I can tell your words are wise because they come from the heart and personal experience.

After hearing all of these responses I now know in my heart I did the right thing. Thank you.

Much love,
deb

ps. Sid, I already feel it. The part of everyone turning to me for strength.

Deborah. I wish you much strength. You did the best thing for your daughter.

I'm so sorry Deb.

I wish I could make this better for you!

Coming into this discussion late, Deborah...but I just wanted to wish you love and light and let you know that I feel like you made the right decision. Time is precious, especially in situations like these.

Many blessings to you and your family, dear one.