Hello all. My grandmother hasn't been in the best of health for a long time. Over my spring break (St. Patrick's day week) she was put in the hospital because she was passing blood and low red blood cell counts.

After one of the procedures she had a stroke, which was missed by the "professionals" for a few days. A few days later she was released to a nursing home.

Last week my grandma was sent to the hospital again for another blood transfusion. Since being there she's needed numerous blood and platelet transfusions. She has an infected bed sore, and she at least had pnenomia. Today she was diagnosed with a disease which is a predecessor to Leukemia.

As cruel as this may sound I want my grandmother to die. I feel it is what's best for her. She's has cancer in the past. She can't eat solid food, she wavers in and out od dementia.

Sorry this is long, but please keep my grandmother in your thoughts and prayers, not for survival, but to end the pain.

Thank-you so much.

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Originally posted by MidnightStar:

As cruel as this may sound I want my grandmother to die. I feel it is what's best for her. She's has cancer in the past. She can't eat solid food, she wavers in and out od dementia.

Sorry this is long, but please keep my grandmother in your thoughts and prayers, not for survival, but to end the pain.

Thank-you so much.

Honey, I've been there. That does not sound cruel. You want her pain to end. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

I agree with MC, it is not cruel to want your grandmother's suffering to end.

I too know how it feels to be in your shoes. I watched my grandmother slowly die over the coure of 8 years due to complcations from brittle diabetes and Parkinson's Disease. She had stroke after stroke and a few TIAs also. She went from walking and talking just like you or I do to being bed ridden, having her diapers changed, being turned from side to side to avoid bedsores and such, being fed through a feeding tube, not being able to talk at all, not being able to walk at all much less use any part of her body as she used to be able to, etc, etc. There were many times during those 8 years I prayed for her suffering to be finally over. She did not want to go into a nursing home and my grandfather didn't want her there either. My aunt (kudos to her) took care of my grandmother day and night for those 8 long years. Finally one day my aunt was no longer physically able to take care of my grandmother and the doctor put my grandmother in a nursing home. Within 15 hours she died. She is now at peace and her pain has ended.

I hope your grandmother's pain ends and she is able to be at peace.

My thoughts and prayers are with you and yours through this time of need.

sending positive vibes ya'll's way.

Your grandma will be in my thoughts. It's not cruel to wish peace for your loved one

I am sending my thoughts and prayers to your family.

Thanks guys...

My grandma's doctor basically forced my grandmother to go to Hospice today. From what I've heard my granddad has been holding onto a false hope, asking for a feeding tube (which would kill her), or for chemo (which is a possible cause of her new cancer). According to the doctor she only has a few weeks left.

Thanks again.

Thanks again guys. I'm pretty sure she's not far away from her death, at least based on what my mom's told me. I wouldn't be surprised is she passed before Thursday.

Damn thats hard to hear. But I hope for the best for her. Either to pass, or to heal. Whichever her body decides is best, and a great big psyhug to you. Try to keep a level head, I know firsthand that at times like this its hard to do. But it has to be done, or you'll fall into a pit of despair.

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Originally posted by MidnightStar:
Thanks guys...

My grandma's doctor basically forced my grandmother to go to Hospice today. From what I've heard my granddad has been holding onto a false hope, asking for a feeding tube (which would kill her), or for chemo (which is a possible cause of her new cancer). According to the doctor she only has a few weeks left.

Thanks again.

Bless his heart. I know this is such a painful place to be at. I hope that things go as peaceful as possible for your family. Its such a weird feeling and I do know how you feel. No matter what is the right answer, its always easier said then done. Your family remains in my prayers dear.

After being moved to Hopsice about 3 weeks ago and being told she would die any day. My grandmother is still alive. However, she MIGHT be a few hours from death.


Thanks again.

Sorry to keep taking up board space, but this is so annoying. A month ago the nurses at Hospice said my grandma wouldn't last 4 days. Nearly a moth passes.

At 11:45ish the nurses says she had 2-3 hours left. Six hours later, no change in her condition.


My grandmother has been alive for years, but she hasn't been living. Especially recently. Why does she keep holding on? Or is it that the nurses have no clue to what they see (which I find hard to believe)?

I'm sorry, I know how you feel. Hospice told my family the same thing. I got called from work and had to leave and my dad called their minister and all that.A month later she was still with us. She had Alzheimer's so I know what you mean.

The last week my dad was by her side from early in the morning to night fall (she was in a nursing home). I took off work so I could be sure he was talking care of himself. She passed in the middle in the night which I felt she would.

All I can tell you is you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. The time will come when she is ready. I don't know why they try to say hours, etc when its so hard to predict.

My grandmother just passed a few hours ago.Her death hit me harder than I thought, especially when my mom was crying.